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Self-esteem issues related to the feminine beauty site
This website does not intend to affect women’s self-esteem or body-esteem. However, it does so in many cases, and some clarifications in this regard are necessary. This is an addendum to a previous attempt to address self- and body-esteem issues related to the goals of this site.
This site aims to promote feminine beauty in the public realm. The reasons why are described on the FAQ page. It must be understood that there is a difference between exalting a given look and effectively ignoring all other looks on the one hand, and ignoring a given look and denigrating all other looks on the other. Either method promotes a given type of look, and this site uses the former method, i.e., exalting feminine beauty rather than denigrating other looks. In practice, there is a fine line between the two methods since either method requires one to present contrasts, and those prone to seeing a half full glass as a half empty one will see this site as disparaging the looks of the great majority of women.
For the unconvinced, I will argue in defense of the notion that my intent is to exalt feminine beauty rather than demote non-feminine beauty. Firstly, impressions to the contrary may be a function of the fact that English is not my native language and limited English proficiency makes it difficult to translate my intent with precision. Secondly, the reader will note the focus of this site on models and beauty pageant contestants. Celebrities such as movie stars and singers are rarely addressed by me, and usually in response to readers’ comments or if the celebrity has a modeling or beauty pageant contestant past. Many gossip/tabloid-style websites pick on the looks of celebrities but usually do not bother addressing the looks of fashion models that are little known except to fashion aficionados. These sites are also not in the business of explicitly promoting a given look, making a strong case that they are particularly interested in picking on ‘undesirable’ looks. The closest approximation to denigrating looks occurs within this site in the context of illustrating correlates of aesthetics as documented in the scientific literature or contrasting public preferences with the fashion world’s preferences. Therefore, it should be clear that if trashing various looks is a goal of this site, then it is not the goal of this site.
But if denigrating various looks is one of the goals of this site, then what purpose does it serve? It is not required to promote feminine beauty. Placing feminine beauty next to other types speaks for itself; there is no need to use demeaning terminology though sometimes it is necessary to call a spade a spade or say that ‘the Emperor has no clothes,’ which may be seen as demeaning by some readers. One could speculate that I derive a perverse pleasure from speaking ill of most types of looks or derive some sort of satisfaction from trashing the looks of models and celebrities, but if so, it is curious why I don’t generally bother with very well-known celebrities from movies and pick on obscure models (example) instead. It is also curious why I don’t pick on the obese when a perusal of this website will make one easily estimate that most likely I do not aesthetically appreciate the obese form. Again, the answer is that this site is not about promoting a look by demeaning other looks. An alternative motive underlying this site could be that I was dumped by a thin/masculine woman and have decided to take out my frustrations on all such women, but to those so inclined, they should read around this site, especially note materials on statistical distributions (example), and ask themselves if the person behind this site does not have the intellect to avoid extrapolating from the particular to the general, i.e., if one thin/masculine woman is bad then they all are.
The reader should also ask why does this website focus on models and beauty pageant contestants? If it is about looks then why not address female celebrities such as big-name singers, TV personalities and actresses when doing so is bound to bring in a lot more web traffic and spread the message? The answer is that this site is about looks in certain contexts. Models are selected because of their looks and a true beauty pageant should select contestants based on looks. Both modeling and beauty pageants intersect with the issue of aesthetics, and when it is not possible to find mainstream sources of feminine beauty appreciation, it is time to address the reasons why and work toward seeing feminine beauty in the limelight, which is what this website is about. I don’t have anything against skinny or masculinized women, and I don’t have problems with using masculinized women in modeling scenarios where there is a need for it, as in using non-feminine women to market athletic products. In addition, if a company wished to cast thin or masculinized women models for any purpose or someone wanted to organize a beauty pageant focusing on thin or masculinized women, I do not have a problem with it. However, some people are responsible for making masculinized women de rigueur in the typical modeling scenario or mainstream beauty pageant. Not even lingerie models have been spared and there is not a single major beauty pageant that focuses on feminine beauty. Time to do something about it. My problems are with the people responsible, and these are not the masculinized models/beauty pageant contestants. The culprits are the male homosexuals who dominate the fashion business. Those wondering how their influence extends to beauty pageants should understand that the big beauty pageants usually have homosexuals working behind the scenes and that it is not possible to realize big beauty pageants without sponsorship, a lot of it coming from the fashion and beauty industries.
This should hopefully clarify my intentions, but clarifications notwithstanding, some women are bound to be offended by this site and have their self-esteem or body-esteem undermined. To these women I offer my sincere apology. Again, it is not my intent to affect how women feel about themselves. Sometimes it is not possible to come up with a win-win scenario in spite of one’s best intentions, and though I firmly believe that the good that will come out of this site will far exceed the bad, I do realize that some negatives are inevitable, and these shall constitute my sins for which I will have to atone.